cross-posted from: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/17147012

"Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”

and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”

and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay."

-a 15yo autistic girl experiencing ABA therapy

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  • @Boomkop3@reddthat.comEnglish
    17•8 months ago

    I’m autistic and dealt with the same behaviour. I eventually just made sure to let everyone around them know about the behaviour. Turns out even people who consider themselves an authority quickly become very nice when their peers know about their behaviour. Even better, when the world outside their org knows

    • @ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.worldEnglish
      5•8 months ago

      Yeah I’ve lost jobs because “authority” figures wanted me to treat them like they’re special and better than everyone else and I’m like “I’ll continue to give you the respect you deserve until you start deserving more.”